I had quite a few random discussions yesterday with various people about having children.  Now, I know of quite a few people who are in their early/mid 40’s and have not had children, my cousin being one of them.  I was talking to my Aunt about her and she said that she would love to have children but she just hasn’t found the right man.  My question is do you need to find the right man to have children?  I want children but I don’t want to be an old mother.  I want to have children young enough to enjoy them but it is a possibility that I will not find the right man either.  Therefore should I not have children?  This is obviously not a dilemma I need to face now, but it may be in the not too distant future.  I do strongly believe in love and so desperately want to find it but I also want to be a mother and I’m not convinced in this day and age the two necessarily go hand in hand. 

Getting back to the main subject of finding a husband, I didn’t put my glad rags on and party last night.  Instead I took some alcohol round to my friends and sat, drank and talked about men.  She and I sat for about 2 hours scanning through all the potential men on the dating site and she managed to persuade me to email some that I wouldn’t normally bother with.  Let’s see if it pays off, although writing emails to strangers after drinking a lot of the blue stuff was probably not the best idea I have had!  Again, let’s see if anyone replies.